Knowing her love language can make choosing Mother’s Day gifts so much easier.
Give your husband and kids some help with Mother’s Day gifts by telling them what they can do for you. How can they make you feel the most loved based on your love language?
The 5 Love Languages
Have you read The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman? This book seriously has the power to change your marriage. Knowing your spouse’s love language can make a huge difference in how you show your love.
If you are not sure what your or your spouse’s love language is, you can take the free love language quiz. The 5 love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
It is often easy to show love in our own love language. But when our spouse has a different love language, we have to make an effort to show our love in a way that will make him feel loved the most.
For example, my husband’s primary love language is quality time. That means it’s not enough for me to be in the same room with him while I am on my computer and half-heartedly responding to his comments. He wants me to be fully present with him. He feels loved when I am fully engaged in an activity with him.
My love language is words of affirmation. When my kids tell me how much they enjoyed something I did for them, I feel so happy. When my husband tells me I did a good job on anything, whether it be making dessert or cleaning an area of the house, I feel appreciated and loved.
I actually got to meet Dr. Chapman and have him sign his book for me. He was one of the main speakers at a local conference for moms I attended in 2015. I was very giddy with excitement!
Mother’s Day gifts
Does your husband take the kids shopping to get Mother’s Day gifts for you? My husband often asks me to give him gift ideas and I have a hard time telling him what I want. It turns out I am not much of a gift person. That is not my love language.
If you also have a hard time giving your husband and kids ideas for Mother’s Day gifts, use this guide as a starting point. Share this list with your husband or kids.
Gift Ideas: Receiving Gifts
Does she frequently give gifts to others just because? Her love language may be receiving gifts. A gift is a tangible reminder that you were thinking of her.
- Make her a card – The gift doesn’t have to be expensive. It just has to tell her you were thinking of her.
- Flowers – Not every woman enjoys getting flowers, but if her love language is receiving gifts, this might be a good idea for her.
- Her favorite snack – You could pick up a pint of ice cream just for her or whatever snack you know she loves.
- Flavored tea – Or her beverage of choice, whether that be a Starbucks latte or an Orange Julius. I personally love Stash Tea because they have a huge selection of teas in grocery stores and online that use natural ingredients and doesn’t give me headaches like teas with artificial flavorings sometimes do.
- Necklace or bracelet – This could be homemade, too. My daughter made me a bracelet out of a pipe cleaner and beads at daycare that I adore because she made it for me.
- Book on a topic she is interested in – Having that book on her shelf will remind her of you.
For a book idea, I would recommend the book You Can Stay Home With Your Kids by Erin Odom. I am not a stay at home mom. But I found this book to be full of tips for saving money in areas that would be helpful to all families.
Erin provides lots of DIY recipes for household products and gives tips for shopping secondhand and entertaining on a budget. She also shares things to think about when making large purchases like healthcare, vehicles, and a house.
Gift Ideas: Words of Affirmation
Does she get excited when you give her a compliment? Does her passion come through when you encourage her in something that is important to her? Or does she make a point to give others words of affirmation? Her love language could be words of affirmation.
- Stationary, pretty note cards, lunch box notes, or pens – If she enjoys writing notes to others, I bet she would enjoy having pretty ways to leave notes.
- Aquanotes – This waterproof note pad includes a pencil so she can send and receive notes in the shower.
- Photo albums or picture frames – I love displaying displaying pictures of the important people in my life.
- Framed quote that tells her how you feel about her – This can be a handmade quote too!
- Coffee mug to remind her she’s the best – I have a large World’s Best Mom coffee mug that my kids picked out from Hallmark that I absolutely love.
- Choose Gratitude: Blessings Journal – I have given several of these as gifts.
- The Happiness Project One-Sentence Journal: A Five-Year Record – I have this journal that I write in each night before bed. It’s fun to look back on what I said last year and 2 years ago on this date.
- A tool for her latest her project – Show her you notice what is important to her and want to encourage her in that activity. Does she love to bake? How about donut pan or a new cookbook?
Gift Ideas: Quality Time
Does she get excited when you spend time with her doing an activity? Does she frequently ask for your attention? Quality time could be her love language.
- Kids Cook Real Food cooking course by Katie Kimball – The VIP membership is the best deal because you get life-time access to all 3 levels instead of just 12 months. My daughter has been through most of the beginner lessons, and my son has been through most of the intermediate lessons. To give you an idea of the types of things Katie teaches in her course, she has a free pdf with 10 healthy snack recipes kids can make on their own.
- Stirring up Fun with Food by Sarah Michelle Gellar – Who knew Sarah Michelle Gellar wrote a book about combining cooking and crafting? My husband pre-ordered a copy of this book when it was released in 2017 as a fun surprise for me.
- Family memberships to local attractions – Places like zoos, museums, and parks often have membership options that allow a family to visit their sites as much as they want for a whole year with just one family membership fee. This is also a great way to support your local community.
- Dinner out of the house – Not only does she get a night off from making dinner and cleaning up, but she gets to spend that time with you. Or you could take her out to lunch during her work day.
- Plan a weekend activity that you know she enjoys – It could be hiking, visiting a park, touring a historical site, or watching baseball.
- Pick out a game to play together – It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as you get to play it together.
Gift Ideas: Acts of Service
Does she find joy in doing things for you? Does she often ask for your help around the house? Acts of service could be her love language.
- Prepare a meal or make a dessert for her – There is nothing quite like a homemade meal she didn’t have to prepare.
- The Fringe Hours by Jessica Turner – Give her the gift of time. Don’t just give her the book, but help her make the time for her to do something she loves. From reading this book, I realized two of my own passions are memory keeping and genealogy.
- Car repairs – Does her car have something that no longer works? Take her car and get it fixed for her.
- Gardening supplies – Does she say she wants to garden but doesn’t have the time? Create a garden plot in the yard for her or pick up soil to fill flower pots.
- Coupons for services – Make coupons with household chores to do for her. Throw in a few fill-in-the-blank ones where she can pick the chore she most wants help with.
- Cleaning service – If neither of you like to clean, you could hire a monthly deep cleaning service.
Gift Ideas: Physical Touch
Does she reach for your hand when the two of you are walking. Does she like to snuggle up to you on the couch? Her love language may be physical touch.
- Massage or pedicure – you can do this yourself or take her out to be pampered.
- Fuzzy socks – These will appeal to her tactile side.
- Soft sweater – This might also make her feel good and appeal to her sense of touch.
- Fluffy stuffed animal – My daughter loves to pick out stuffed animals for me to sleep with.
- Sweatshirt to remind her of you – When you aren’t around to give her a hug, she can wrap herself in something to remind her of you.
- Her favorite skin care products
For your marriage
I would highly recommend The 5 Love Languages for your marriage, no matter what stage you are in. This book would especially make a great wedding gift for all newlyweds.
It specifically addresses the honeymoon phase and what happens when that phase passes. It offers practical advice and tells stories along the way to drive the message home. And it was the inspiration for this post!
What is your love language? What would you like to receive for Mother’s Day gifts?